Updated: Nov 16, 2021
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The term boundaries are kind of trendy these days. But what does it mean - really? It's a big and complex topic. The way I like to sum it up, is that boundaries are our framework and our sense of self. It's not necessarily about setting up a fence to keep people out of your life. All though it is about everything you say no to, it's actually also equally as much about what you say yes to.
What are your likes and dislikes? Your preference and non-preferences? Do you even know and feel what they are? Are you able to easily maintain your sense of self with other people, or do you loose yourself around others?
This is so important to be aware of, because it creates the foundation for us to truly be able to create the life we want for ourselves. Our boundaries are what allows us to know when to start and when to stop. What to do and what not to do. And we must learn how to maturely express this to others, as they form the foundation of our part of our relationships.
What was mirrored and tought to us during childhood had a big influence on how we developed our boundaries and our sense of self. Some of us was encouraged to explore and express ourselves with great freedom, and was met with respect for our personal choices and decisres. For others, this wasn´t the case, and we quickly learned how to abandon ourselves for the sake of gaining love, approval or even to avoid punishment. Some of us had caregivers that was constantly disapproving our essence and was making choices on our behalf. Some learned to change themselves and their personal taste and preferances in order to fit in. And the result was an environment where we couldn´t even get to know ourselves at all. Some of us had our boundaries heavily violated. This different ways of growing up, affect our curernt relationship with boundaries.
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